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I got up this morning, and I got down to kink fest around 10:30 ish, and got registered. Thank god they had space available.There were 16 workshops available today. The four I took were, "SM101", "So you want to be a top", "Things your therapist won't tell you" and "Flogging basics".
As far as I was concerned, the first two classes, "SM101", and "So you want to be a top" paid for the weekend. I found out that I was on the right track, heading where I need to go for myself.
One of the things I found out was that there are very few things that all people in the SM community agree on. Even the whole area of "Safe, Sane and Consensual" have some detractors, but that was a specialized topic with a whole lot of caveats. I'm not intending for this to be a SM resource, HOW EVER, I can point you to some good ones if you ask. One of the things that I'm doing here is exploring my sexuality, and some of you are coming along for the ride.
"Things your therapist won't tell you" was an interesting panel that is hard to explain. A lot of people were asking questions specific to them, and what I wanted to know was the strategic stuff. Things like how do I find out if my therapist is lifestyle friendly? One of the things was that very few therapists are going to tell you that homosexuality is wrong, however "SM is evil" is still very prevalent. Something to watch for is if your therapist is thinking that it will just go away once you work through certain things. It may, but it may not.
The flogging intro was interesting but I was pretty overwhelmed by that point. Just that I won't be flogging someone with out supervision any time soon.
One of the things I haven't mentioned is the people. I met SO many cool, cool people. I met someone that I hadn't seen in 7 or 8 years. It took about 1/2 the day to figure out what that connection was, she had camped with my SCA family at Egils one year. Then there was a triad that I should have met sometime during my SCA years but I'm going to be tracking them down next weekend. And just MANY MANY MANY more cool people.
I took Mouse to dinner, and then got an hour and a half nap on her futon. We had an interesting discussion on the subject of BDSM, and I had enough knowlege that I could disagree with some of her points and back it up.
Now, for the dungeon, it was cool, it was interesting, I was like out of my depth. So I just kind of watched. One of the things that was interesting was the amount of laughter and giggling that was going on. Also, the flow of love was intense, and almost visible. I watched one scene that was just amazing. A man had his wife tied up to the center pole and was doing some interesting work on her. Two things that stood out in my mind were the length of time of the scene (at least an hour, possibly 2), and the amount of love. He was causing her pain, but he was also causing her pleasure. There was nothing he did that was not totally focused on her.
Let's see, there was an interesting caning, and there was a seran wrap scene. Now these were not the only other scenes going on, but these two were the only ones I really watched. Again, the amount of love and affection that was flowing in these scenes was almost visible.